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The G.I.F.T. Today
Grateful: being ok with not being ok at times, it makes everything brighter
Intention-more visualization practices today
First-check on errands down south
Things-wake up da Bean at 10
Morning Platitude from The GratiDude
Of course, your moods are dictated by the energy that comes from the thoughts that you were thinking about. I have been reading and studying this for the last few years. I know this very well, however, at times this reality hits me and befuddles me.
Like it did yesterday.
I had a good day in terms of doing the things I wanted to do, not having any challenging or uncomfortable surprises however, I kept experiencing these waves of melancholy and slight sadness that I had trouble pinpointing the origin of for much of the day.
I realized it had to do with some feelings of separation in the form of loneliness, by realizing the fact that I don’t have someone here locally that I can just kick it with any day and really connect deeply in conversation.
I have a few friends that are more than willing and capable however, they have full agenda lives with families and things going on and they don’t live extremely close to me vis-à-vis walking distance or a less than five minute drive or something like that.
Adding all of that up, it just is tough at times and it’s just part of where my life is as I move into this new phase of my personal and professional life.
When I take a deep breath and look back, I realize that I didn’t simply change one area of my life for example getting a new job however, instead I changed everything all at once and then have to prioritize what needs to happen first and juggle the mix so to speak.
At the same time, I received a couple of phone calls from some dear friends in the golf industry that are starting to look forward in the calendar to the Orlando PGA Show and it was super wonderful to see their caller ID names pop up.
Two of my favorite guys from ClubCar, my boy, Captain Steubing Chris Shaul, and the Warren G of Social Circle RG3, caught up with me yesterday completely unsolicited and unexpected.
And what’s funny is that the same time I was still experiencing these sad thoughts of friends that I don’t have the ability to connect with here not because they’re far away physically, but because they’re far away emotionally mentally and spiritually and if they wanted to hang out with me, they would have by now ha!
I was giving my kid, the Bean , a ride yesterday to rehearsal and I was explaining to her just some of the feelings I was having as an exercise to better understand it myself. This is a new thing for me to patiently sit in my discomfort, sadness, or pain and explore it and be OK with it. It really helps untie the knots to breathe through it and just be OK not feeling OK.
At the end of the day, I realize that it isn’t so much the loneliness of not connecting with these old friends.
It’s the sadness and the pain I feel for them, not realizing that they don’t have to live day-to-day in a way that doesn’t bring them joy.
They can change the way that they’re thinking and where they’re focused and experience new levels of personal happiness and it’s right there for them.
It’s crushing for me like watching a slow-motion car crash that I feel like I could prevent, when really I can’t prevent anybody else’s emotional car crash.
My energy is much better spent cultivating my own knowledge and skills and deeper understanding of my own personal life experience and simply wait for the students that are ready, and I will be the teacher that will appear.
And what really turned me around yesterday was talking with one of my absolute best friends of this whole lifetime that I’ll ever have my boy The DJ Treble Tee out there in SoCal.
I’m super proud of him and the life that he has built for himself and I know that he is on his path to continue to learn and grow and after having spoken to him, I realize that I’m in a “quality over quantity” state right now when it comes to my friendships.
The ones that have crossed over into my new life from my past, life are the strongest friends and family that I could ever have. The friends of Agape of that unconditional acceptance and love, and they are the steam that powers my dream.
The theme of forgiveness keeps coming up and cannot be over emphasized.
If you have any friends in your past that you had an abrupt termination to your friendship without closure, I encourage you to serve up an offering of forgiveness and see how that feels.
Yes, according to research, forgiveness is considered beneficial for your immune system, as holding onto anger and resentment from grudges can significantly stress your body, negatively impacting your immune response, while actively forgiving can help calm your stress levels and promote better immune function.
Key points about forgiveness and the immune system:
Stress reduction:
When you forgive someone, you release the stress associated with anger and resentment, which can positively impact your body’s ability to fight off illness by lowering stress hormones.
Parasympathetic nervous system activation:
Forgiveness engages the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for relaxation and restoration, allowing your body to function optimally including immune response.
Improved mental health:
By letting go of grudges, you can experience reduced anxiety and depression, further contributing to a healthier immune system.
Remember that when you hold a grudge and walk around angry at somebody it’s like grabbing a hot ember or coal from a fire with the anticipation of seeing that person that you were angry at so you could throw that hot burning ember at their face.
What happens in reality?
You walk around holding that flaming coal, burning your hand the entire time, and if you ever did see that person and attempted to throw that hot ember your hand would be so disfigured and burnt that you would miss anyway.
Put the fucking coal down and instead of your heart.
Your hand will thank you and so will we because all energy is interconnected, and we need more love and forgiveness and less anger and hate on this planet.
Thus spoke The GratiDude(How ya like me in purple? Kinda regal, huh? All new 2025 versions 🙂
Even if you don’t reach out and call the person or text them that you want to have closure with, you could start meditating or praying on releasing the negative feelings and emotions and realize they’re not serving you and stop contributing your thought energy in that direction when you think of that person.
It is ok to ask The Universe or God for help, for some guidance and strength to forgive.
This is forgiveness, and if and when there’s an opportunity to communicate directly, you can express to that person, should you choose to do so, that you have released them from the bondage of anger and vengeance and that all you have in your heart is love and forgiveness.
You’re only hurting yourself when you hold on to negative emotions and when you let go, you can feel the flow and the love of the universe and expand your attitude of gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
and
Gratitude
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