Do yourself a huge favor: forgive ALL the people you can. Do it today.
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When you pass to the other side of self-absorption and the need to be right all the time, you can get to the place where compassion and forgiveness reign supreme.
The actor Jim Carrey was talking about forgiveness and compassion recently, and specifically he spoke figuratively of one of the message he took from Jesus on the cross, and how to Jim, it was the acts of forgiveness for the soldiers that crucified Jesus that is his big takeaway. For Jim Carrey, the Crucifixion was a fundamental lesson on the importance of forgiveness in order to live a loving life and to make the most of our short time here on earth.
Once we get out of the narrative of positioning ourselves as the object of what is happening, or the center character in the story, we can just accept things as they are.
What I mean here is that shifting our internal dialogue away from looking at life as happening to us and instead life is happening for us and all around us.
We must emphasize the co-participatory nature of our reality, and the fact that even the unhealthiest relationships we’ve ever been in could only have happened because we were helping make it happen.
It takes two to tango and sometimes you don’t realize that you’re doing the dance of death until much later however that dance never could’ve happened without you being on the dance floor.
This is also why child abuse in all forms and fashions is so insidious because of how hard it is to unwind the impact and how difficult forgiveness can often be in those situations.
My friend and mentor Natalie Baird-King has become an expert and proponent on the importance and value of forgiveness in personal healing and in one’s own spiritual and life journey. Her book was fittingly titled “Forgiving Unforgivable” https://forgivingunforgivable.com/ which says it all.
It is Natalie’s perspective that the act of forgiveness not only frees up your own heart so that it can begin healing, but it also allows the full reintegration of the spirits and energies of the people that are being forgiven.
This is a very subtle and intense concept that ties our own act of forgiveness to the release of a sort of spiritual bond that perpetrators may feel even though they are no longer incarnated in the physical form of a human body.
Whether you believe in these concepts or not, it’s up to you. I’m merely sharing perspectives and information on how different individuals have processed their human experience and found ways to integrate their traumatic experiences in their past and have effective healing.
Yes, according to research and psychological understanding, forgiving others can significantly contribute to healing your own heart by releasing the emotional burden of resentment, anger, and bitterness, leading to improved mental health, reduced stress, and a greater sense of peace within yourself; essentially allowing you to move forward from past hurts and live more freely.
Key points about forgiveness and healing:
Reduces stress and anxiety:
Holding onto grudges can keep you in a state of chronic stress, while forgiveness can help calm your mind and body.
Improves mental well-being:
By letting go of negative emotions associated with past hurts, forgiveness can alleviate symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Strengthens relationships:
Forgiveness can pave the way for healthier and more positive relationships with others.
Promotes self-esteem:
Choosing to forgive can empower you and boost your self-worth.
Important considerations:
Forgiveness is a process:
It may take time and effort to fully forgive someone, and it doesn’t necessarily mean condoning their actions.
Seek support if needed:
If you are struggling with deep-seated resentment, consider seeking professional therapy to navigate the process of forgiveness.
Not always necessary for healing:
While forgiveness can be beneficial, it’s important to recognize that in some cases, especially with severe trauma, setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing personal safety might be more crucial than actively trying to forgive the perpetrator.
“Can I pray for you?”
It’s amazing how this player approaches a star on the other team and perhaps both out of admiration and concern wanted to lend and offer him his most valuable resource and that is to leverage his connection with his higher power in the form of a direct prayer of protection and concern for his Opponent and recent combatant on the football field.
What’s cool is that the opponent, the running back for Arizona State certainly didn’t see that coming in terms of an offer to pray on his behalf, but immediately they both just dropped to a knee, lowered their heads, and got after it.
This would not be possible if this player for Texas was concerned about what other people thought, or didn’t trust his intuition to follow his heart and into the words that he was receiving from his higher power to offer up a chunk of his faith and to break spiritual bread with this bro, right there on the field.
But he did it because he’s following his orders, and he is connected and in a place where he is comfortable with his own self.
When we are connected to our own breath and every single day staying grounded in our bodies in our minds, we can share wonderful things with other people.
This is one more benefit to self-care and to being healthy is that you can help other people. That’s the most difficult or frustrating thing for people that either have injuries or temporary sicknesses, that feeling of helplessness or the inability to contribute to their household or to their community during a time of convalescence.
I’m incredibly happy to share with you and to remind you that everything starts with a small practical step of simply taking a long inhalation and a long exhalation.
And then doing that again.
Three or four more times until you’re utterly present and you stop thinking about all that other shit that you’re thinking about.
OK, now you’re here, and it feels good so let’s share it.
That’s an attitude of gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
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Gratitude
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Thank you sincerely.
IN LIFE AND GOLF, GET BETTER…..NOW!
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Every day, every way, grateful.
KC
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