You can’t selectively love yourself like you are at grazing the buffet at Sizzler.
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Morning Meditation from The GratiDude
I certainly did not plan to get into Buddhism or starting to read about eastern philosophy, spirituality, and histories when I was a teenager.
It was never on my radar wasn’t an interest to me and it was as foreign as any other cultural aspect from a faraway place.
That didn’t change immediately when I was nineteen and moved to California, however, a few years later, it certainly did.
I was attending Cabrillo Junior College in Aptos, California, one of the most nectar locations for a JC that you could ever imagine on planet Earth. Minutes from the redwoods and massive amounts of trails, flowing rivers, and about a half a mile from the Monterey Bay Marine Sanctuary and Pacific Ocean.
You could be in the redwoods on your mountain bike bombing down a single trail and 10 minutes later be standing barefoot on the beach with 6-foot waves crashing in front of you from the pacific. It was a splendid place to live and go to school to say the least.
The year was 1991 and my favorite professors were starting a new humanities program, and they wanted me to be one of the first people to sign up so I could help recruit some other bright and curious students to their academic playground.
The program consisted of a full semester of western studies and then a full semester of eastern studies with a weekly student-lead seminar on Fridays that tied together all the subject matter from any given week.
Areas of study included philosophy, literature, poetry, art history, history in general, geography, and anything else they could think of to include.
When we got to the second semester, and Nancy Brown got into her philosophy from the east, Buddhism came up quickly in the curriculum.
There is an introductory text on the teachings of the Buddha that was as familiar to me as a favorite old worn calf or the smile from an old friend. I felt like I had known and read these teachings, and I could turn the pages as easily as drinking water. I’ve never had a learning experience like this, and obviously, I was intellectually attracted to the teaching. I liked how clean the Buddhist teachings were relative to not looking for a suspension of the belief or requiring a leap of faith. I was not there from a personal growth standpoint to be comfortable with embracing my own faith however, Buddhism was a heart opener, nonetheless. The writings were a way of looking at life in the material world and the challenges of being a sentient being in such a place.
It made a lot of sense to me quite honestly.
Eventually, I was introduced to the same person that introduced Buddhism to Martin Luther King back in the sixties the Vietnamese Buddhist teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh.
In this video, TNH talks about the fact that ALL the energies we experience in the form of emotions and feelings are ALL from US and ALL need to be loved and embraced tenderly.
This includes our anger, which we need to hold and love like a mother holds her baby.
While it might seem counterintuitive, “loving your own anger” can be interpreted as accepting and understanding your anger as a valid emotion, allowing you to process it healthily without letting it control you, essentially seeing it as a signal that needs to be addressed rather than something to suppress or be ashamed of; this can be considered a form of self-love, allowing you to work through the underlying causes of your anger constructively.
Key points to consider:
Anger as a signal:
Anger can be a sign that a boundary is being crossed, a need is not being met, or an injustice is occurring, which can be a positive signal to address the situation.
Not condoning destructive behavior:
“Loving your anger” does not mean acting aggressively or expressing it in harmful ways. It means acknowledging the emotion, understanding its source, and finding healthy ways to manage it.
Self-compassion:
Accepting your anger without judgment allows you to approach it with self-compassion, which is crucial for managing it effectively.
How to “love your anger” in a healthy way:
Identify the source: When you feel angry, pause and reflect on what triggered it.
Validate your feelings: Acknowledge that your anger is a natural response to a situation.
Express it appropriately: Communicate your concerns assertively to the relevant person, without resorting to aggression.
Process the emotion: Use healthy coping mechanisms like journaling, exercise, or talking to a trusted person to work through your anger.
I’ve never heard of this concept until this morning, and I wanted to share it because it’s tremendously profound, and a difficult approach to argue with.
We must accept ourselves, the good and the bad and love all of it because this is the only way that we can be is the way that we are right now.
And how do we know that this experience is one that we should have?
Because we are having it.
That’s all we need to know.
It’s easy to love and lean into and celebrate all our qualities. However, loving our idiosyncrasies and even our negative thoughts and emotions allows us to understand the root cause for those unwanted energies and to release those and to let go of the spell that they’ve cast over us.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject as it’s a fascinating way to approach a feeling of anger and I look forward to applying this process as it bubbles up inside me(however I’m not looking to have some anger just to experiment with this so I can wait to be angry as long as it takes. No rush there at all ).
In general, it’s a cool message to always love yourself in your entirety and not be selective like you’re at the buffet at Sizzler and just love certain aspects of yourself and then treat your negative emotions like brussels sprouts on the buffet and avoid them at all costs.
Put a veggie on your plate and love everything on the buffet and love everything about yourself because you’re perfect right where you’re at, and you’re safe, you are loved and you are joyful.
That’s an attitude of gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
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Gratitude
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