The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

With an attitude of gratitude, I know that these dear friends can still be loved by me and will always be welcome back in my life if the timing is right in this lifetime.

If it is not right for them to come back to my life, it is just like many other people who climb aboard The GratiDude Express and ride for a while and hop off.

Others stay on forever and couldn’t let go even if they wanted to.

And that’s perfect too.

There is no guarantee anyone will ever come back to you, as in some cases, it is BEST that they DON’T.

We may not even understand why that is, ever, in this lifetime. That’s OK, we could never understand everything, but we can accept it.

While the idea of “letting go of someone you love so they will come back” is often romanticized, the truth is that there’s no guarantee they will return, and actively trying to manipulate a situation with that goal in mind is usually not a healthy approach; sometimes letting go can create space for reflection and potential reconciliation, but it should primarily be done for your own well-being and not as a strategy to get someone back.

Key points to consider:

Focus on personal growth:

The real benefit of letting go is often the opportunity for personal growth and healing, which can lead to a healthier you, even if the relationship doesn’t rekindle.

Reasons for separation matter:

If the relationship ended due to significant issues that haven’t been addressed, simply letting go may not magically solve them.

Respect boundaries:

If someone wants space, actively trying to bring them back can be disrespectful and hinder any potential for future connection.

Don’t rely on manipulation:

Using the “let go” tactic to control or guilt someone into returning is not ethical or healthy.

When might letting go potentially lead to a reunion?

Time for reflection:

Sometimes, a break can give both partners time to process feelings and realize what they had.

Addressing underlying issues:

If the reason for the separation is addressed and both partners are willing to work on themselves, reconciliation could be possible.

Accepting things for the way they are not trying to change them is a huge part of being able to enjoy your life and not feeling anxiety or frustration based upon your ego’s desire to influence outcomes.

When things don’t go as planned or people separate from us, or relationships change in their structure, that is just another learning opportunity. It is a more painful lesson than others because matters of the heart cut deeply and affect us emotionally and psychologically in a very profound way.

When folks get jammed up in their energy and frequency and start to exhibit unhealthy behaviors it is in large part from relationship relationships in their past and the stories that individuals tell themselves about those relationship relationships.

Logic is not a part of the equation in these situations as the stories that we tell ourselves become factual, and we operate off these narratives, which can sometimes be very damaging and hurtful.

One of my mentors tells a story of how when she was young her mother would say offhand comments about how the stress of the kids was damaging her health and would “be the death of her.”

You guessed it, when my Mentor’s Mom died at an early age of a random health issue, Family members felt culpable, and as if they had been responsible for her death because of the things that were said, and the way that they interpreted. Those interpretations became FACTS and painful traumatic memories.

Is only when she was able to get to a point where she could get comfortable in silence to be able to process and integrate the traumas from her youth, and to unwind some of the lies that she told herself, was she able to let go of these hurtful, thoughts and feelings.

You must remember that your whole reality is being formed up until you are about 12 years old and then your brain keeps developing for another 10 to 12 years after that.

This is why traumas and challenges suffering in pain in childhood are so long lasting, and one of the many reasons we want to introduce gratitude and daily wellness practices to the youth as soon as possible.

Letting go is difficult, but it is necessary and like the cliché when you love someone and let them go if they come back then they are meant to be.

We suffer through our attachments to relationships and people, our experiences and enjoyable moments. The process of understanding the nature of our suffering is liberating, and our own ability to let go through utilizing proven breathing practices(box breathing for example) and conscious awareness, allows us to take control of our experience and have more self-determination in our day through having control of our thoughts and emotions.

Fly and be free on this million-dollar Monday and let’s get the most out of the rest of this year as we prepare for the most grateful year in memory as we will continue to expand our collective attitude of gratitude.

EVERY DAY:

Love

and

Gratitude

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