You can unwind any lie you told yourself with love and patience.
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The G.I.F.T. Today
Grateful: for feeling the quality and depth in all my relationships, nothing shallow
Intention-flow between two halves of the day, play and gently prepare
First-bring snacks to golf
Things-schedule and Jupiter trip NGF
Morning Meditation from The GratiDude
Life is not what the details are or were factually speaking. To understand how we should feel we don’t read a report of what has happened to us to check exactly what our response should be. We instead replay the tape of what went down and why and tell ourselves that story.
I believe one of the biggest areas that we can look at in terms of what we tell ourselves are the stories around not being able to try something new or different for various reasons.
I was speaking with a friend who has young kids recently, and the subject of meditation came up because they were lamenting that they were not being consistent in their meditation practice, and they needed to do something about it. I asked them why they thought this was happening by asking them if they enjoyed the feeling that they have during the day when they meditate in the morning.
They responded that yes, they really enjoy how they feel throughout the day in part because they started their day with meditation.
And then ask them if they notice the difference in other words if they don’t feel as clear during the day when they don’t meditate. They agreed that that is the case that they find themselves having a little bit more anxiety when they look back on things on the days that they didn’t meditate in the morning.
So, I asked my friend what exactly then keeps you from doing your meditation in the morning when you know how great it makes you feel? I’m having trouble understanding why you’re lacking inspiration when you seem so clear?
He replied that the reason that he’s not meditating regularly is because of their infant baby who is six months old. They are just getting the nighttime routine dialed in and when he puts the baby down some nights, the baby takes an extra-long time, fussing and crying, and he ends up staying later than he had planned and as a result, he hit snooze a few times in the morning, and he misses his short window to get his meditation done.
He is telling himself that the reason he can’t meditate is because he had a baby.
I guess it’s my job to call bullshit.
Instead, because I’m getting a bit more patient and wiser, I asked him which days does he think he would be a better father? On the days he meditated or on the days he didn’t meditate.
He started smiling and he saw where I was going.
And I asked him another simple question: if the baby has trouble going to sleep and you know this happens pretty regularly why don’t you put the baby down to bed sooner because inevitably the baby seems to wanna go through the process of crying and fussing before it goes to sleep anyway, so start that process sooner and the baby will go to sleep sooner. Does that make sense?
“Yeah, it does make sense, and because I like to for dinner, I sometimes delay putting the baby down by 1530 minutes to finish whatever article I’m reading or chapter so I can have a little bit of me time. I need to read for a shorter period of time and make some time for myself to meditate in the morning as well.”
This is another reason why it’s helpful to have a coach to be able to keep yourself on track and hold yourself accountable by having an external person point out your blinds spots, so you don’t end up telling stories to yourself that end up hurting you and your family.
My friend admitted that he is both a better person, a better husband and enjoys his life more when he meditates in the morning and using the excuse of having a baby was just bullshit because he was a little bit scared and being a little bit lazy. And that’s OK, at the end of the day it’s OK to make a course correction but it’s not OK to pretend that you’re floating down a river in Egypt(De-Nile aka denial)and sticking your head in the sand.
Yes, fears can significantly limit dreams by acting as a barrier that prevents people from pursuing their passions and aspirations, often manifesting as self-doubt and anxiety that holds them back from taking action towards their goals; essentially, fear can stop someone from even trying to achieve their dreams due to the perceived risks involved.
Key points about how fears limit dreams:
· Paralyzing effect:
· When faced with a large dream, fear can lead to overwhelming anxiety, causing people to freeze and not take any steps towards achieving it.
· Negative self-talk:
· Fear can fuel negative thoughts like “I can’t do this” or “What if I fail,” which can undermine confidence and motivation.
· Comfort zone:
· Fear often encourages people to stay within their comfort zone, avoiding challenges and opportunities that could lead to fulfilling their dreams.
· However, it’s important to remember that:
· Overcoming fear is possible:
· By acknowledging fears, developing coping mechanisms, and building resilience, individuals can gradually overcome their fears and pursue their dreams.
· Dreams can motivate action:
· Sometimes, the desire to achieve a dream can be strong enough to push through fear and take necessary steps.
Like a Dream of getting married to your longtime sweetheart.
This Detroit Lions fan was telling himself that they were financial obstacles that were keeping him from proposing to his longtime girlfriend and getting married when really, he just needed a little bit of encouragement and push to cut through the story, he was telling himself.
The true story is that his lady was waiting for years for that day and she didn’t care if he had a giant diamond ring or one of those candy rings that used to get when you were a kid that go on your finger, she was ready to commit and she knew that this day was coming.
I promise you it is the things that we don’t do, or we don’t try the things that we will regret because remember no matter what happens in any effort that we make to try or do something new and different. We will learn and grow in the process and that is all this journey is about-growth.
With this mindset obstacles and challenges are always learning opportunities and the whole world shifts when you view it through your lens of an attitude of gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
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Gratitude
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