The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

I have a new Tribe accepting applications. Requirements are; a lack of fear, an embracing of Agape, and an Attitude of Gratitude.

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The G.I.F.T. Today

Grateful: for being able to settle into my experience daily with less expectations than the day before

Intention-keep heart and mind below the speed limit with breath

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Morning Meditation from The GratiDude

This is a bittersweet one for me to post today because of some of the realizations I’ve had about who my tribe is today and who my tribe was yesterday.

I need to let go of my past tribe because they’ve clearly let go of me.

The reality is that isolation is a byproduct of growth and evolution, as painful as that sounds.  Isolation can be a natural part of the process of becoming more spiritually awakened. This can happen when you realize that you no longer relate to many people in your life, even if you still enjoy their company. You might feel a longing to connect more deeply but feel that it’s not reciprocated.

I have friends in my hometown of Sarasota that I have known for 40 years or more that I loved dearly that have not come visited me in my new house that I have lived at now for 14 months.

Going back about 12 months I started dropping little hints saying “hey my new house is right downtown. It’s near to your office if you wanna swing by and check it out.”

OR

“Why don’t you pick up some Lox and come on over here and I will have some bagels and fixings ready, and we could get a little Sunday bagel brunch on?”

Nothing.

When I tell our mutual friends that live in other parts of the country that OUR old “friends” haven’t even come to my house one time to visit after numerous invitations they are a bit confused. Like, “Did you do something to make them angry”. Nope.

“Are they THAT busy?” Ha ha, nope.

Why would I keep going back and hoping that they would come over or asking them to visit when clearly there’s something about my new life and the way I live that makes them uncomfortable.

One of these dear friends, I talk with pretty regularly and I know he’s always looking and thinking of ways to help me however, at the same time he’s obviously scared to death of me and my alcohol sobriety.

Another old dear friend is going through some things and feels like he can’t talk to me until he is feeling much better. All I want to do is just tell him I love him and just be there for him.

Reality is that my frequency and the way that I’m vibrating now is NOT a match for these people anymore and I need to let go of my emotional attachment to our friendship and realize that I will always love them however, we don’t have the ability at this moment to contribute to each other’s daily happiness because we are operating from different perspectives and with different values.

For me, because these friends go back so far, and I’ve been through so much with them. It has been difficult for me to accept the fact that they might not be my friends anymore.

I can’t even believe I’m saying this. I’ll always love them, but I have worked my way out of the ability to communicate and connect with them.

The other piece from ego standpoint is that I’m probably trying too hard to get them to make changes in their life and they’re probably putting up resistance to that subconsciously however, I know I’m coming from a good place of concern and love so I’m not going to beat myself up too much for that.

Ann Arbor Fellas: You don’t know what to do with me anymore and I scare the shit out of you, or you find my positive attitude overwhelming, that’s OK. I still love you and if there’s anything I can do, you won’t have any trouble tracking me down or finding me.

In the meantime, I am alone at times because part of the process of reinvention is to be comfortable being in isolation until you can hone your frequency that allows you to attract the right people for your new way of life.

And I look around at the landscape of my friends today and I see the ones that are the new ones that have come into my life in the last few years and that are going to be with me for a long time and are also interested in growth, learning and healing.

That’s the difference between my new friends and new tribe and some of my old friends and  old Tribe. New ones want to grow and change and tackle the truth.

Some of the Old Ones are stuck and scared, and I am clearly NOT the guy to get them unstuck. Too close to home, I get it.