The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

Because I broadcast my frequency so clearly and loudly without any hesitation because I know that I am not a mistake, and I was born for a reason.  That reason can only be uncovered when I accept myself for who I am, and I love myself as I was created.  

When I do this, I’m able to pursue my personal greatness in my unique flavor share it with others and it’s simply a frequency of truth and authenticity that emanates from me because I’m living in a way that keeps me aligned to my higher self through daily practice, meditation, and hard work.

Dr. Judith Orloff has spent her career studying energy and vibes.  Here are her 4 Laws:

Law No. 1: We attract who we are.

The more positive energy we give off, the more we’ll receive. Ditto for negativity. It works like this: Love attracts love. Grumpiness attracts grumpiness. Passion attracts passion. Rage attracts rage.

First, define what being positive does and doesn’t mean for you in terms of attitude and behavior. Don’t worry if you’re far from a positive place. It’s an evolution. Give thought to what you value most in yourself or others. You can then strengthen these traits in yourself and attract the same.

The idea is to find reciprocally nourishing interactions, not to win a popularity contest. (Of course, it feels good to be liked. But I’ve seen this need turn into addiction.) The following exercise will help you boost your positive signals.

·  Identify your best qualities and project them to the world. Before meeting new people or going to important events, prime yourself. Think, “I’m not going to focus on my insecurity but on a strength like my sensitivity, compassion, or humor; I’m going to feel and trust the positive energy inside me. I’m going to claim my full power.” Such selective attention puts your best parts front and center.

Law No. 2: Intuition clarifies smart choices.

Relationships are tricky; they can be a big blur even when your eyes are open. We’ve learned to draw conclusions from surface data: how nice someone seems, looks, or is educated, or how a situation adds up on paper. But attraction goes deeper; to make it work for you, other ingredients must be considered. Respect your intuitions about relationships and identify those that highlight compatible matches.

What may obscure the picture is anxiety or intense sexual attraction. If so, go slow until you get a keener intuitive read. In my book, Positive Energy I give exercises to help train you to act from instinct, not impulse.

·  Tune in. Choose a relationship or situation that needs clarification – you’re confused about a friendship or vacation. Run it by your intuition criteria: Do you feel troubled and nervous or energized and safe?

·  Act on vibes. Insecurity, ego, lust, or stubbornness can obscure your better judgment. If a person feels positive, explore the possibilities. If the vibes are mixed, take a pass or at least wait. If all you sense is negative, have the courage to walk away, no matter how tempting the option seems. Then observe how listening to energy in this way leads you to the juiciest opportunities.

Law No. 3: Seeing the best in people magnetizes them.

Instead of reflexively accentuating the worst in a person or situation, choose to energize positive qualities. The object isn’t to flatter, make nice, be politically correct or ignore intuitive red flags – nor to deny someone’s dark side or placate abusers. Your goal is to mine the gold in positive relationships and elevate communication in more difficult ones.

We want to have the goodness in us acknowledges. If you want to connect with someone, notice his or her assets. Let’s say a co-worker is snitty. Realize that happy people don’t act this way. So instead of being snitty back or constantly miffed, redirect the energy. Comment on the long hours she puts in, or her dynamite shoes. Use this approach for a week – as well as the ones below – and watch the vibes change.

·  Tell at least two people you love what you’re grateful for about them.

·  Tell at least two people you don’t love what you’re grateful for about them.

·  Adjust your perception. Spend an afternoon noticing the positive qualities of everyone you meet.

·  Praise other people’s abilities.

Law No. 4: Soulful giving generates abundance.

Giving is supposed to feel good; if not, something’s wrong. Soulful giving enlarges your capacity to be more caring – you give for the joy of it, expecting nothing in return. In contrast, codependent giving bleeds life force; it’s driven by obligation, guilt or a martyr-complex, and it leaves the giver feeling sucked dry, unappreciated, and put upon.

You want to give for reasons that energize you, not because you’re taking inappropriate responsibility for others. The following strategies will generate bountiful vibes for you and the receiver. If you give from your heart, your vitality will soar.

·  Give spontaneously. Any time is right to offer simple tokens of appreciation to friends or colleagues; a candle, rose, small plant, fragrant soap, or funny card.

·  Give anonymously. Walk an old lady across the street; hold open an elevator; let a car go before you in traffic; or do something nice behind the scenes for someone, but don’t get found out. Such good deeds add light to your energy field and ultimately draw the same goodness back to you. As a 14-year-old friend told me, “The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer up someone else.”

I would never have the opportunity to find a local skateboard group chapter if I weren’t 100% comfortable with who I am and how I’m feeling because the kids see right through all the bullshit.  When the kids keep coming around because they like the way they feel when they’re around you know you’re doing something right, and you really don’t need to overthink it.

When you create your own life, be steadfast and steadily play that beat, you will attract the people that find the rhythm enjoyable and wish to hang out and move their feet to your beat.

What you can’t do is quit playing your instrument or put down the drum because nobody is showing up to dance yet.  Don’t be tempted to look around and see what instrument other people are playing and pick that instrument up instead and start trying to play that.  Will you have anybody dancing around and hanging out and feel miserable because you are not being yourself and you’re playing an instrument other than the drum which is the instrument that has called you.

The challenges to make sure that you’re choosing the instrument that you’re going to play based upon the information you’re receiving from the inside and not from the outside.  That’s where having a good daily practice of breath, work mindfulness, physical activity, and healthy relationships. All come into play so that you can clearly receive the information that is intended for you and feel comfortable and confident to act upon it.

There’s a reason they call all this activity “shadow work “and there’s a reason why it’s so critical to accept this process and lean into it.

More on Shadow Work Here:

Shadow work is a psychological process that involves exploring and integrating parts of ourselves that we have repressed or ignored. The goal is to develop self-awareness and self-acceptance by acknowledging and working with these parts of ourselves. 

Here are some benefits of shadow work: 

• Improved self-esteem: Shadow work can help us improve our self-esteem and self-acceptance. 

• Better relationships: Shadow work can help us improve our relationships by helping us understand and communicate better. 

• Healthy coping mechanisms: Shadow work can help us learn healthy coping mechanisms. 

• More compassion: Shadow work can help us have more compassion for ourselves and others. 

• More authenticity: Shadow work can help us show up more authentically. 

The term “shadow self” was first used by psychoanalyst Carl Jung, who believed that the shadow self is an important part of a person’s experience of the world. Jung also believed that working with the shadow self could help people become more balanced and gain a better understanding of themselves. 

Anyone can do shadow work on their own, but if you struggle with severe trauma, you may want to consider seeking out a licensed therapist.

For all of you that are in your 30s and 40s believe me there’s a reckoning coming and you either get aligned with truth and what makes you happy or you start to really suffer as you get into your 50s and don’t even get me started on what miserable people look like in their 60s and beyond.

Stick with the drum and don’t worry if all you’re doing is just honing your craft without an audience because the process is not the results.

I’m here to help you and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

Enjoy your life experience today and always put yourself in the situation of being a Learner/Grower and know that we have a very short time here so let’s do all we can to disfrutar el sabor, as they say in Spanish.

Give someone a hug today as a physical expression of your attitude of gratitude.

EVERY DAY:

Love

and

Gratitude

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