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Question: What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
Answer: Ask for help
The thing is that when we were little kids in a healthy situation, we’re always encouraged to ask for help and to not be afraid to get some assistance if we’re having trouble. In school when we are little, we are told that if we get stuck or jammed up to simply raise our hand and our kind teacher will come over and help us unwind the knot that we have gotten ourselves into mentally.
However, along the way, especially in the United States of America with our fierce, cultural focus and commitment on individualism and personal independence, we put a great deal of focus on going it alone and being a “self-made man”.
“A self-made man?”
What blasphemous bastard came up with that term ha ha?
Like a person could be made in a petri dish by himself and then grow without any assistance, nurturing or support, and then function in a world that’s all interconnected and create a life for themselves all by themselves with no assistance from others.
Completely impossible, strange, weird and sounds like a miserable existence that has nothing to do with what human experience is all about.
Many avoid asking for help because of:
· Fear of vulnerability
People may equate asking for help with vulnerability, and vulnerability with weakness. They may also be afraid of being judged, criticized, or embarrassed.
· Fear of rejection
People may worry that the person they ask for help may say no, which can damage their self-esteem. They may also worry that the person may be going through a difficult time and not be able to help.
We can make it easier on ourselves with a plan:
Some tips for making it easier to ask for help include:
Consider the other person.
Think about what the other person might be able to help with, and when you need things by. You can also try to pick a time when they aren’t busy or stressed.
Make a SMART request.
A SMART request is specific, meaningful, action-oriented, realistic, and time-bound.
Show gratitude.
You can show your appreciation with feedback, a handwritten note, or a phone call.
As adults, I say, we bring back the whole concept of simply raising our hand and waiting for someone kind and loving to come over and help. In this case, though raising your hand, might mean sending a text or a phone call to a friend stopping by to visit someone in person and looking someone in the eye and simply say:
Hey sister, I could really use someone to talk to right now.
Or
I’m not sure what’s going on, but I just don’t feel right and I’m having trouble being happy.
Or
I’ve made some decisions in my life lately that have been very self-destructive and I’m feeling a lot of shame right now. I’m not sure what’s going on.
For me personally I didn’t ask for help when I decided I was going to quit alcohol because I was so petrified, and it seemed so daunting that I felt like I needed to keep it under wraps, and I really didn’t know what kind of help to ask for.
Now in my business life, however, because I’m doing so many new things around my coaching business and grateful4 movement, I know I must’ve asked for help constantly and rely on the kindness and benevolence of my friends and network to help me get there much faster.
And here’s the thing about asking for help: it doesn’t matter how many people you must ask for help if just one of them says yes. Because I’ve spent so many hours and days in the world of sales and doing deals. I have no issues at all with rejection and I know that there are situations in life and times where you must kiss many frogs to find just one Prince.
If you’re not sure who to ask for help from, look at your group of friends that have been with you when you were at your absolute worst and are still with you today.
I think of the friends that were with me when I was a drunk idiot when I was being self-destructive and loved me, supported me, and accepted me then and here now to see me living in a much healthier and vibrant way. Those are the friends that you can go to ask for help and even if they can’t help you, they can point you in the right direction or help you find the resources to get you where you need to go.
This is an opportunity to look for help, not giving up, but instead as an accelerant to fulfilling your personal greatness and the pursuit of your dreams.
Asking for help is on your fire.
Asking for help is self-love.
So, I’m asking you to help yourself and love yourself and let’s all move into this weekend with a diamond, sparkling attitude of gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
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Gratitude
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