One more look from you, and I swear, I’m coming right over there and HUGGING YOU!
“Hold my glasses.”
That’s what I would tell a friend, as I handed over my spectacles when I was hammered and thought I might get in a scrap.
I haven’t said that to anyone in 20+ years, but I did say it…. numerous times.
It has been a long time since I uttered those idiotic words, however physical aggression and violence are a mainstay in male culture everywhere in the world.
Alcohol is inevitably involved in many fights and just about all the grown-up fights I have seen in my adult life almost always involved at least one drunk person. That’s why alcohol has deservedly earned the nickname of being “the stupid sauce.”
“Here, hold my beer.”
R.I.P.
That’s why I love this video that sets us up for what would be expected when two “Agro” Dudes face off in the street, you expect a violent physical confrontation, a typical ego-fueled battle between two scared, weak individuals.
Spoiler alert, this fight, ends differently than most.
There are a lot of messages here, depending on how many layers you wanna dig into but just the overall message of normalizing it to be OK to be vulnerable and kind to another man without it belittling your sense of manhood or implicating you as being a closeted homosexual or something silly like that.
And for the record, there are many social messages and currents that are just starting to be talked about and addressed that have really encouraged men to put on a front and also to bury their true emotions and feelings and to not express those.
It is many doctors’ opinions that suppression of emotions and the expression of emotions is one of the reasons men suffer from shorter lifespan than women. Something to think about and if you feel like it you can because it’s good for your ha ha.
For me, my friendship circle got better and tighter when I got comfortable telling my closest friends that I love them on a regular basis.
It also allowed me to weed out the friends that had their own work to do relative to integrating past experiences and traumas, teaching and learnings that may not be kind or loving, or that they may not be aware of.
Only folks willing to do “Shadow Work” get to swim in the deep end of the pool, as the “Austin Sage” Daron K. Roberts j.d. espouses.
If someone is uncomfortable expressing and receiving love, and is somehow threatened or weirded out by that the timing is just not right for us to hang out and be friends in this lifetime perhaps.
I gotta keep moving. I have people to love and people that love me.
This is just another reminder that it’s good to get comfortable in the moment of now and then your own calm state so that you have the ability to review some of your beliefs and ideas and decide which ones to keep and which ones to throw away that no longer serve you.
We can’t help being imprinted and impacted by other people’s energies that we’ve experienced, especially when we were young as kids, so it’s important that we do our best to understand the origins as well as the implications of our thought patterns.
Like my gratitude and faith-based brother Merril Hoge, who was our speaker in week one of our Self-Sherpa summit you must acquire and maintain what Merril calls “thought accountability.”
I love this term.
Hold yourself accountable to your thoughts, but don’t beat yourself up.
And if you don’t know why you think the way you think about something, and it doesn’t feel good simply surrender it and let it go.
It isn’t important where an unhealthy or unpleasant belief system or recurring thought has come from. What is important is that going forward You choose not to provide energy for that thought or those types of thoughts going forward.
You make that commitment in your mind, and you hold yourself accountable for your commitment.
That’s what Merril is talking about with thought accountability.
So, give a bro a hug and a sister abyss and a stranger some love because it cost you nothing and it elevates your own personal vibration and everyone around you.
Turn off the news, stop reading the newspaper and go share some positive energy with people in the real world.
This changes and improves the state of your community and the entire planet.
I’m not being facetious or joking even a tiny bit, your positive energy is felt as the ripple carries throughout the universe when the energy behind the action is love.
Love is the most powerful force in the universe.
And it powers my bedazzled attitude of gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
and
Gratitude
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