The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

Give it away today as tomorrow is promised to nobody. Besides, there is more where that came from.

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Gratitude

Intention

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The G.I.F.T. Today

Grateful-to keep hearing and feeling that there is no destination so roll the windows down and feel the breeze

Intention-everything is learning, even teaching

First-cash for Bean singing lessons

Things-stroll like easy reader

Morning Platitude from The GratiDude

I’m 56 now and I’ve been going to funerals and memorial services for over 40 years. I have some personal data points to draw from.

At Memorial services and celebrations of life or funerals, there are all sorts of different types of grieving going on simultaneously and different degrees of emotional and spiritual closeness and relationship statuses for all of the different attendees. Obviously, you could spot the closest family members because they are granted the greatest proximity to either the gravesite or the speakers in general, and those family are usually seated in the front row.

I can’t remember everything about my father’s memorial service in terms of my behavior with the exception that I was right on the edge of basically being out of control hysterical it felt like. I was wailing at moments like an animal in a trap and clearly crying out for some fucking help.

Help AFTER the Service.

And also, I was wailing as a form of asking:
“What the fuck just happened here?
Where were the Adults for the last 3 or 4 years?
Is ANYBODY going to explain to Sean and I what was REAL from our childhood and what wasn’t? What can we KEEP?”

I would have been better served with assistance BEFORE my dad chose to take his own life but hey, if you want to pile on with everyone else now, be my guest.

In reality with my perspective today, I would never want to change anything because I’m still learning and processing and growing from all of my experiences that I continue to integrate and understand in a more complete and less ego-based way. I can see the universe and the source of all light, love, energy and life constantly working to guide me, protect me, and move me in the direction of getting to the point where I am now of having heart coherence and living a life day-to-day that’s meaningful and satisfying.

When you wouldn’t change your life or trade your life with anyone else on the planet, you certainly wouldn’t change anything in your past because that would eliminate the ability to be here today as I am. I love where I’m at, and I love myself very much.

What I want to encourage you to do today is to make a really short list of no more than five people that you cherish the most, and that the thought of them not being alive here in the human form would be extremely sad for you if you were to think of that. So, with that brief list, we are going to communicate directly our love and appreciation for those people and offer them up one thing that we love the most about them. Just to give them something wonderful to feel great about that specific as well as the general feeling of love and appreciation that you’ll share.

If you can muster the focus and the time to do this today, the impact and the positive benefits to your relationship as well as two your own sense of contentment tonight when your head hits the pillow will be hard to measure or even comprehend this morning.

Yes, expressing love, including saying “I love you” out loud, can have positive health benefits, including lowering stress hormones, cholesterol, and blood pressure, and supporting a stronger immune system.

Here’s a more detailed explanation of the potential health benefits:

Stress Reduction:

Research suggests that expressing positive feelings, like love, can lower stress hormones.

Improved Cardiovascular Health:

Studies indicate that expressing love can contribute to lower cholesterol and blood pressure.

Stronger Immune System:

Communicating love may also support a stronger immune system.

Increased Oxytocin:

Saying “I love you” can lead to the release of oxytocin, a hormone associated with positive feelings and well-being.

Building Strong Bonds:

Saying “I love you” can help build strong connections and make people feel secure and safe.

These are the practical ways that we can coach and help you in your life is to encourage you to consistently choose faith over fear and keep your heart open by staying present as much as possible in the moment of now.

The exercise today is one of self-love because it makes more of you available to experience your own life as well as to develop and cultivate more meaningful relationships through your presence and awareness in conversations and interactions.

These weeks are flying by and I know how it goes with the kids after spring break, you sneeze and it’s the last day of school, it feels like.

My brother Sean and I caught up yesterday and he and his beautiful queen Evelyn were hatching a plan to turn the cousins loose this summer on a road trip so that my kids and his kids can all get together and catch up in a meaningful way and go camping or maybe hit one of the national parks out west. It is a great age and Summer for this, as the kids will be 15, 17, 20, and 22.

Get your list together and start sending text or phone calls hopefully even zoom call so you could look at each other or FaceTime and give their soul a big fat kiss today with an attitude of gratitude.

EVERY DAY:

Love

and

Gratitude

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