“I found my inner goofy child. And I finally feel like me again.”-Kaki Okomura
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Businesslike.
What does that even mean?
When I was growing up, businesslike meant behaving like something you AREN’T, because you are supposed to be stoic, robot-like, and whatever you do, don’t show emotion and certainly don’t reveal any feelings of joy.
In other words, become Un-Human. Great. For Money? No F’ing thanks.
God forbid you have fun during your life!
We had it all wrong the whole time.
This is not the dress rehearsal life, and nobody gets out of here alive.
One such example of just how funny life can be is my very own situation of sitting here in my Bachelor Bungalow by the Beach.
Bachelor being the operative word, as I never thought I would be a 55-year-old bachelor when I was getting married around 20 years ago.
I had waited much longer than many of my friends to take the plunge into marriage, and I had not rushed in to marriage, and I really wanted to make sure that the union that I was going to enter would not end prematurely because of human mistakes that would lead to a divorce.
However, subconsciously I knew I had to choose a Woman that would be OK with me being a highly functional addict, even though my alcohol was more binge drunk and not the daily double fist-fulls of vodka at night. That came when we had kids and I was deep into moving into “money maker mode” and tried to cram my feelings down.
Didn’t work well.
As many kids growing up in the 70s and 80s, my parents split up and we’re on the path to a divorce. However, my Father made that a moot point with one squeeze of the trigger out in some cornfields near Ann Arbor, Michigan, Michigan in July 1984.
That trauma and lots of other stuff led me to becoming a real pro drinker that would hang out with Tito pretty regularly for about 10 years in my 40s.
When I finally got the courage to quit alcohol, it was the motivation of protecting my marriage and everything else that was the big driver on top of simply saving my own life.
The love I had(and still have forever) for my Ex is what gave me the Courage to Quit drinking…..how crazy is that??
I quit drinking to preserve something that I ended up sabotaging with sobriety.
The irony is that the person I became once I was no longer an active alcohol drinker. Every day was much different than the person that my ex-wife had signed up to have children and settle down with.
I was now interested in deep emotional connections and emotional intimacy as it’s called in the world of couples and this was a big change from my previous go go go lifestyle and mentality that really didn’t slow down long enough to get deep into my own personal development and healing.
The irony is that the thing that I did in theory protect my marriage, ended up being the thing that broke up my marriage.
My sobriety.
And if you can’t laugh at that, you are in a serious world of hurt.
It’s hilarious…. and it’s further proof that we really don’t know where this life is going to take us and that God in the universe have a tremendous sense of humor and that having fun and feeling joy has got to be a daily practice for us.
And, Science supports Silly.
Being silly also lowers anxiety and heart rate in the process, improving immune system functionality and reducing illness and sickness.
https://forge.medium.com/i-had-to-up-my-goofiness-to-save-me-from-myself-6ebad23109d0
I love how Kaki Okumura explains the process here:
“And as I found myself becoming goofier, something delightful happened: My family started matching my energy. Our whole house became playful. Every time we were about to drive somewhere, we called “shotgun” and raced toward the car (because everyone knows it doesn’t count if you just say the word “shotgun”). We would steal each others’ phones and hide selfies with creepy filters in one another’s camera rolls. We’d order French macarons with our faces printed on them. I wonder what antics we’ll come up with next.
These past few months have certainly still been rough, but filling my time with dumb, childish, mischievous humor has kept me going. I haven’t been productive and I’m not sure I’ve improved myself much, but that doesn’t matter right now. I found my inner goofy child. And I finally feel like me again.”
Invoking Play at work encourages self expression and individual personality trait exploration. One of the results is that folks feel better so they take less sick days…..financially employers really need to encourage fun and joy as they drive profits and the bottom line.
It all starts with you personally by connecting to your breath, and allowing for the stillness to provide answers for the direction you need to go in order to be more joyful or for the activities that you could be pursuing that will make you happy.
The answers that you need are present inside your consciousness is cutting through the clutter to embrace the stillness and receive the messages.
I can help you with that.
In the meantime, it is a perfect day for Play.
Remember when Mrs. Galbraith, or Mrs. Reed, or whoever you favorite Elementary School Teacher was, when they opened the doors for recess when you were a little kid in elementary school, you did not have to play. You could do anything you wanted….you could sit down and work on your math homework if you wanted to out on the playground.
Funny thing is I don’t remember any kid ever working on their homework out on the playground at Eberwhite elementary school running around with the Little Rascals.
Brilliant genius kids like Mark Persiko back in the day even ran around like goofballs at recess until they could get back to their desk and crush their Rubiks cube again. Everybody played and everybody should play and everybody should play today.
Setting goals around laughter enjoy should be included in ones to do list on a daily basis.
Get out of your own way and leave your ego somewhere where you could pick it up later. For now, let that little kid inside of you come out and giggle and run around with no agenda other than flexing and sharing their Attitude of Gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
and
Gratitude
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The G.I.F.T. Today
Grateful: for feeling like I am now living in a warm river of energy that if I let go, will take me effortlessly anywhere I wish to travel
Intention-enjoy some chill beach time with new eyes this afternoon
First-get Dekker some outside time
Things-start shaping weekly schedule
REGISTER YOUR SPOT …STILL TIME!!!
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