Hello, Me? Yeah, it’s Me. You are doing it Kid, keep shining and KNOW you are the GREATEST!!”
“Stay away from that man Kev, he talks to him himself all the time when he walks his dog. I heard him”, warned me about the Man with the Pipe and Blackie the sweet Dog.
I never knew his name, but that’s what my brother and I called him, as we only saw him when he walked his dog and he had this beautiful black labrador mix that was super friendly. he was very friendly as well and always had a smile if you stopped to pet his dog when you would look up with a black pipe clench between his teeth Kind of tobacco smell coming out of his smoke.
We noticed him chattering to himself when we would come up to approach his dog, but we knew how kind he was and that he always let us pet Blackie the dog so we really didn’t think twice of it until our babysitter told us that we should be careful and warned us about him.
I learned that people always mock that they don’t understand.
The fool is the person that’s not the person that activity that’s being ridiculed that’s my personal experience.
As I got older and played competitive sports, I noticed that the only difference between some of the kids that went on to play in the major leagues and have long careers, and myself was not really physical talent as much as mental side, focus and believe it or not the soundtrack that was going on in their head.
I can explain a little bit.
I only played a few months of Division I college baseball and I don’t talk about it very much because there isn’t really much to say, but I arrived at Western Michigan, Michigan in August 1986 and I was still 17 years old.
Baseball players had to arrive I believe a week before school started for fall baseball and I just finished playing about 75 games of baseball starting in April between high school and two different Summer teams and travel baseball and tournaments, it was the most baseball I’ve ever played. I was partying like a rockstar drinking smoking having sex and rolling around Southeastern, Michigan, as if I was a college student or something.
By the time I arrive to Kalamazoo, I was wondering what the hell I was doing there whose idea this was anyway when is the party and goddamn my arm sure is tired.
My dorm room was arranged through the baseball team, and so the two dudes in the room next to me were both baseball players one from Western Michigan, another one from Birmingham, and these kids were on a whole other level in terms of being into baseball. They clearly came from stable families with a lot of discipline and structure because I just hadn’t seen and hung out with kids my age that did things like make the bed and be responsible and have sticky notes on their mirror with positive self talk.
I don’t even know if I’d seen a sticky note before and these kids had Tony Robbins like sayings on their side of the mirror to get them going and they were locked in mentally in terms of their internal that it was no surprise that both of these dudes had professional baseball careers, one of whom Had a pretty long one.
They would say great things to themselves, and told me “this is what Olympic Athletes do, they repeat good things to themselves.”.
No shit?
Nobody told ME that before.
When you combine positive self-talk with specific goals or activities, you are NOW cooking with oil, researchers say, as instructional and motivational self-talk were found to be particularly good for “precision-based tasks,” that is, focusing on specific movements required for the activity.
For example, if I’m at the rock-climbing gym, I might instruct myself to “reach for that horseshoe-shaped foothold to your left — but don’t pull yourself up! Lift from your legs. You got it! Yes!” This mix of instructional and motivational self-talk will likely better my performance climbing the wall.
Positive self talk is one thing however it’s the negative self talk. They can really put you into a spiral as well often times folks that are suffering from depression have their situation exacerbated because there’s been no instruction or explanation about how to get into their own personal soundtrack and change the music so to speak.
Those with anxiety and depression may be particularly prone to the harmful effects of negative self-talk. “Negative self-talk is quite automatic in stressful situations and can then become chronic over time,” says Jason Moser, an associate professor of psychology at Michigan State University whose research has focused on self-talk.
A very positive first step in this is creating a daily affirmation that you will say, hopefully multiple times a day, that can cover everything in your life from work, business personal, etc.
Something like “I am a great person who wants the best for everyone who always tries his best who loves everyone and will always do everything I can to be of service to others”
Something like this is a wonderful thing to just keep coming back to and saying out loud whenever you have some time.
Scientists have since discovered that when people write self-affirmations, they tend to subsequently make positive, healthy, life choices and even feel a stronger, larger sense of self.
Standard affirmations like are fantastic:
“I am a worthy person and I have a divine right to experience happiness and to have positive things happen in my life.”
Try repeating this ten times each morning and ten times each night and see if you feel a change.
You will.
Affirmations have been a little criticized in academia, especially when the affirmation affirms something that feels out of reach for someone. If the gap between where you are and where the affirmation says you are is too big, then they can make some people feel worse. That’s the root of the criticism as I understand it.
But affirmations can be written in many different ways.
They don’t have to state where you are, like, “I love myself” when perhaps a person might feel very far from that, but instead could be encouraging like this:
“Every day, in every way, I am feeling better and better about myself.”
Every day in every way I am getting better and better.
The boxer, Muhammad Ali was famous for repeatedly stating, “I am the greatest.” He wasn’t when he first said it, but he arguably eventually became the greatest of ALL time.
Why wouldn’t you gas yourself up and pour some love onto your heart just because?
It’s just like walking down the street and looking up in the sky and saying “thank you”. You do it because you can because it feels good and because the energy is a positive contribution to the universe.
That’s plenty.
Which is why in the first week on the first day with the first group and the very first time I’m going to be coaching everyone is going to create their very first personal affirmation that they are going to say every day for the rest of their lives. Dammit ha ha.!
It seems like a small thing, but until you’ve done it regularly and out loud, you have no idea the superpower of self talk that you were sitting on.
The dynamite of dialect that you can pour into your ear hole to elevate your soul.
The chatter that matters.
So give it a try today and if you are a shark,
be a great white, shark and swim with authority using your fish brainwaves that you use to chat with Aquaman to let all us humans know about your Pelagic Attitude of Gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
and
Gratitude
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Grateful: for the feeling of the Universe conspiring for our happiness. Just keep vibing and showing up and paying attention
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Every day, every way, grateful.
KC
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