I would give you a jumpstart, but I’m low on juice myself right now.
That was a fundamental thing to have in your car growing up in the 70s and 80s in Michigan were jumper cables. Getting other people to jump or needing a jump was just a part of life with older cars and extremely cold weather.
It’s also an incredible opportunity to uplift and help others in real time is when you would see somebody on the side of the road or in a parking lot with a dead battery trying to start their car and all they were getting is that whining sound of trying to fire but no spark to make it happen.
I had it happen a few times where I had a Hooptie(Hooptie is a slang word to describe a car, truck, or SUV someone owns that is usually well past its best days. A hooptie can be any car that is usually older, beat up, but still being driven, often as a daily driver.) Car and I had just gotten a jump and literally somebody else needed a jumpstart and I simply couldn’t do it.
I could attempt it, however it’s one of those things things that the energy that it would take to jump. The other car might just be enough to leave my battery not able to start my car the next time I turned it off.
That is that until you’ve been stranded somewhere in the cold with no ability to start your car. You don’t really worry about it. Another words until you’re out of juice you don’t really know how it feels to be out of juice.
It happens to us as humans as well.
I’ve had times over the last year or so where I’ve needed to restrict my interactions with people in order to conserve my energy because I was going through some very intense life changes and things that were very Energy intensive.
During these periods, like literally exactly 12 months ago when I was up in northern Michigan, I limited the number of phone calls I would receive and have with a large group of friends. I realized that I needed to tighten up my circle of people I was communicating with and limit my interactions to only those individuals who have consistently shown a cadence of offering me energy and support on a regular basis without me, asking for it or needing to say something.
In other words, those friends that have a relationship with me give and receive and don’t simply come to me when they need that occasional jumpstart.
And there are other friends that are completely lacking and self-awareness, that I know only communicate with me when they need something or want something that I can do for them in my network, help them with a teatime, or introduce them to someone so that they can pursue financial gain And personal benefits.
I let those people go right to voicemail these days and for the foreseeable future.
You see it’s OK to temporarily tighten your circle and it’s also really important to let people know why you’re doing that so you don’t do any long-term damage to your friendships.
I had conversations letting folks know “I’m going through a lot of growth and some challenging times and I’m really conserving my energy so I appreciate your understanding and allowing me a few months before we have a real conversation and catch up.”
I’m not asking for your permission to not call you back. I’m not hoping that you’re OK with it. I’m just telling you what’s going on and I really don’t give a rats ass what you think because right now I’ve circled the wagons and I’m taking care of me.
I felt the turbulence…. I saw the mask drop and I put the oxygen mask on MYSELF first, and I’m taking a deep-ass breath before I worry about anything else.
As you get more comfortable with building a practice of present moment, awareness and living a life that’s more rooted in the now versus anxiety, future thoughts, or regret past thoughts, you have the chance to do an audit of your interactions and friendships and make sure that the exchange is fair and reasonable from an energetic standpoint.
You also owe it to yourself in the world to be self-aware enough to hold yourself accountable and think about your own friends, and if there are people that you’re being balanced with in terms of your offering of energy.
In other words, are there people or friends that you call only when you need something or when you’re feeling down?
Why don’t you call them when you’re feeling up just to let them know you appreciate them and you love them?
Some tough love:
If you’re not doing both of the above when you need help and when you don’t need help, quite frankly, you’re acting like a shitty friend.
That’s OK now that you know that you’re out of balance, do something about it and change the balance. Don’t be a shitty friend anymore.
Know that it’s OK to defend your energy and to take care of yourself so that you can be a leader in your family in your place of work and in your community by being compassionate and caring in your interactions.
Check your battery level before you accept that it’s OK if you let it go to voicemail at the particular moment, you’ve got a little bit of resting up so that you can come back tomorrow and show everyone your Attitude of Gratitude.
EVERY DAY:
Love
and
Gratitude
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Grateful: for my growing awareness of how wide the moment of now can be and that my mind controls the width
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Every day, every way, grateful.
KC
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