The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

Do the work NOW so your end is about connecting with God, not being panicked.

At at the very core this article shows that your own ego and the need to protect that fragile structure of who you think you are will literally terrify you on your deathbed.

https://www.cnbc.com/2024/05/31/phrases-that-are-often-peoples-last-words-says-doctor-what-we-can-learn.html

If you avoid being vulnerable and sharing your true feelings as your time comes to expire from this earth and your body no longer serves you you will be more scared and freaked out than you ever have been in your entire life.

And I’ve seen it myself firsthand.

If you’ve read my stuff for a while, you’ve heard me talk about my conversations that I would have with the other patients at my mom’s assisted living facility called Aravilla here in Sarasota.

That was the last spot she moved to after her independent condominium spot no longer served her needs because of her cognitive dissonance.  Aravilla was new and clean and the morale. The staff was really good and it was a great place for her to finish her run here on earth.

She was only there for about two years and part of it was during Covid so I didn’t spend as much time inside as I might have otherwise however especially towards the end, I had time for conversations, especially with what I called the “flight risks” upstairs. The Flight Risks were the ones that had their brains and bodies working well but did not really know all the details of where they were and what was going on. So, they wanted to head outside and check out what was happening.

These Folks had moved to the point where the line between the reality and their head and the reality outside their head, it become a little bit too fuzzy, and it was unsafe for them to be on a ground floor, where they could walk outside easily .

These folks could still carry in many cases, clear conversations, and it was fascinating how they would talk about the regrets of having something to do with not keeping it real as to who they really were.  They lived being worried about what other people, people they didn’t even KNOW, thought about them.

What bothered them the most at the end was that the whole time they knew deep down that there was something they wanted to do or someone they really loved or really they were an artist or they were gay and they were afraid to tell their parents it goes on and on and on, but it comes down to not being authentic and not being able to express your true feelings.

This is the core of why I got into studying subconscious awareness and my desire to receive some credentials to allow me to come into the golf industry and the  business world to help individuals understand their own minds and attitudes by sharing information around the science of how our brains work, and how we formulate our ideas thoughts and memories.

95% of all of your thoughts happen in your subconscious and the way your thought patterns are formed are through all of your experiences and interactions through the course of your life and you have millions of thoughts going through your head every single day.  

It is a lot to get your arms around, so you start with the big things and you really take some deep breath and understand that all of the experiences and thoughts are in there whether or not you choose to understand them, and to roll up your sleeves and do the work now or not.

All of that energy of all of those thoughts and feelings are still present in your overall body and frequency, you just don’t know why they’re making you feel the way they’re making you feel.

Lift the veil off what’s going on in your mind simply understanding your personality type the influences of your immediate family. The type of culture you grew up in the major influences around your belief systems, which could be your education, spirituality, religion, rituals, family, traditions, toxic relationships, abusive encounters, education systems value structures, all of these things are in there whether you like it or not or whether you want to admit it or not.

It’s just the nature of life given the type of brain that we have. 

Furthermore, from an evolutionary standpoint, we need to remember that bad memories stick much easier than good memories.

This is very logical obviously because you needed to remember, which cave had the saber tooth tiger in it so you didn’t walk by it a few million years ago and get eaten like your neighbor Igor did and all that was left with him was a club and just a pile of

bones.

That’s part of where sticky memories come in handy, however it also makes things like abuse and trauma very difficult to unwind because those memories adhere to our memory banks quickly quickly and easily.

Conversely, good memories and complements, and things of that nature slide right away, and it takes a concerted effort to remind ourselves of those good things and good memories, so they’re not overshadowed by our evolutionary proclivity to focus on the stuff that can kill us.

The reality is in modern society that we have much of that protection and “fight or flight” instinct, and that inclination to remember danger because our society is so safe and anesthetized.  

We don’t need to have a constant reminders of bad memories replaying over and over again because we’re safe and sound in our modern society and we can let go of those memories that don’t serve us.  

However, you can’t let go of memory if you don’t know what it is and where it came from.

That’s where my happiness Sherpa program comes into play as we are literally going to start from the beginning with breath, work and understanding your sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system systems so that you could start to choose the moment of NOW. We will teach you why you should appreciate and focus on staying in the “generous present moment of now”, which is where you can assess which thoughts feelings and memories are serving you or that should be let go of and that are causing you negative energy or ongoing trauma.

Where can you start?

Deep breath, learning the importance of nose breathing, moving your body every single day, and starting starting to get comfortable with self talk and telling yourself that you love yourself and that you’re exactly where you need to be right now right here.

I am OK.

I am loved.

I’m happy to be alive and I’m grateful for my life today.

From there, you could start to contemplate these four questions in your own life and make sure that you are both letting everyone know that you love them and also offering up your own personal forgiveness to anyone that you think might need it.

Remember when you hold onto a grudge, it is like reaching into a fire to grab a hot coal which you will carry around in your hand, anticipating an encounter with the person that you have a grudge with.

When you see that person, you will throw that cold right at the eye in the hopes of blinding them and causing them immense pain and suffering.

What really happens?

You walk around with your hand did you burn the shit out of your hand and when you run into that person your hand is so burned and you’re so freaked out that you throw and it actually misses them.

Now you have a burnt hand everyone’s laughing at you and you’ve accomplished nothing.  

That’s carrying a grudge.

Instead offer forgiveness and do the work now so that 50 years from now when it comes time to say goodbye to your loved ones, you’re not panicked and full of anxiety and wondering what went wrong.

Now is the time to do the work, and if you think I’m bullshitting, you, go down to the assisted living center near you and just talk to anybody and ask them.

I’m not making this up.

I always mean what I say, and I say what I mean.

So treat this post as a warning shot over the bow and the work begins with just small breaths and learning self-talk and building yourself a positive affirmation that covers work and life and everything and remind yourself out loud verbally that you are doing your best and that you are loved by a creator and that you will love everyone in your life.

When you say these things out loud every single day, your life will change.

Miracles will occur and flowers will bloom out of concrete.

If you don’t believe me, ask any of the folks that have gotten with the program and will tell you it is true as the day is long, over here in GratiTown the sun shines 24 seven 365 when you’re good with an Attitude of Gratitude.

EVERY DAY:

Love

and

Gratitude

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