The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

I am the Friend that you call when shit gets real. I’m here to fix it and clean it up, and not ask for a thing and never talk about it. If you know me, you know.

I caught thousands of innings of baseball as a catcher behind the dish, donning the “tools is ignorance”, as Catcher’s Equipment is affectionately referred to.

Even as the young person, I enjoyed the opportunity to help pictures perform better and to provide as much positive support and energy as possible to achieve our common goals of getting the next hitter out.  So this cartoon that my GratiBro Justin Clark used on LinkedIn made me chuckle quite a bit(connect with Justin here on LI (https://www.linkedin.com/in/vpofsalesexecutivecoach/ …….great vibes) .

A good reminder to ponder what type of friend we are and what type of friend we wish to be from an inspirational standpoint.  

The solid rock or the flake?

That may be a bit extreme, but I think you know what I mean.  we all have Fair-weather friends that come around when things are great however, if they hear that you’ve run into a rough patch, you probably won’t see them for quite some time.  They are the people that when they come to a party, they would never think about helping clean up or to ask the host if there is anything they can do.

They have not created that self-awareness for themselves and unfortunately, are they are going to experience a higher degree of loneliness than most folks because of their lack of self-awareness.  That’s just reality.

Another great reminder that cultivating present moment, awareness and comfort with stillness helps you be more self-aware of your behavior so that you can ensure that it matches up with your values and beliefs that are flowing to you from your connection to your higher-self.

I have people in my life that I did a lot of business with and a lot of personal things with as well and I am truly shocked at how little they wish to communicate or to carry on a ongoing friendship over these last six years or so since we sold our business to ClubCar.  

I find it fascinating to see who desires to stay in touch because it simply reveals who values relationships and people more so over material and transactional processes and thoughts.  You don’t have to guess, that is the really cool thing about watching peoples behavior and how they treat others. It leaves nothing to interpretation.

I am also very grateful that I understand my inclination, especially going back many years, to take this type of behavior personally, as if it was special TO me, or directed at me. That is simply not the case.

As I look across the room here and I see my ParView Golf Bag from literally 25 years ago, I also think about all of the great people from ParView that are scattered throughout the world that I still stay in touch with directly or via LinkedIn.  

We shared a tremendous experience together as people doing business and operating for a culture of gratitude and putting customers first with a very customer centric approach to client services that in hindsight was well ahead of its time from a technology or a SaaS Customer support standpoint.

I love all of those old-school people from ParView like Steve Boucini, Amy Croshaw, Joe Edberg, Brian Smith, Rob Abrams, Scott Bieniek , Ryan Tighe, David Saslow, RJ Milici, I can go on and on.  

Those are my family for life because that’s how I roll. Hard Stop.

It is amazing when you actually go through the uncomfortable moment of pointing out the fact that somebody(someone you have considered a Friend) only contacts you when they need something, and even the act of pointing it out is lost on them.

Like, “huh, well yeah, when I need to feel good or golf or a favor, I call you. yeah”.

Thanks, Bruh. Big help you are.

That’s how self-absorbed some of your friends are.  

However, you need to keep in mind that you created this friendship like everything in your life.

At some point, YOU chose to either overlook this person’s approach or you just didn’t get deep enough in the relationship to realize how they look at you and other people in their life.  It is simply a reveal and not indictment on you or something you should take personally.

You need to look around and rid yourself of being concerned about Takers, or folks that don’t check in on you and care for your emotional well being and current state.

If they are all about THEMSELVES, well, let them be with THEMSELVES.

Not you.

So you thin your heard.

Hard stop.

The periods in my life where I’ve been going through the biggest periods of growth are also the times where I’ve trimmed back my social calendar, I found it less important to stay current with social media, and I definitely don’t spend time interacting with transactional people that don’t value Love, unity and real friendship and commitment. That’s how you grow faster, like Miracle Grow for your frequency, tighten it up.

It is almost as if we have the opportunity to not only continue to better ourselves, but to continue to better the crew around us simultaneously so all boats are rising through the higher tide provided through gratitude, mindfulness, and personal self development.

We are putting the oxygen mask on ourselves first, looking around for those that are old or young sick or feeble and helping them first, and then moving back to the healthy adults to give them the check up from the neck up that they need so that we can understand the science and the benefits behind developing and nurturing our Attitude of Gratitude.

EVERY DAY:

Love

and

Gratitude

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