The Daily G.I.F.T. from The GratiDude

Comparing yourself to others can lower your “frequency” (often used in a spiritual or energetic context to mean well-being or positive energy) by fostering negative emotions, self-doubt, and a sense of inadequacy, leading to a decreased sense of self-worth and overall lower emotional state.

Here’s a more detailed explanation:

Negative Emotions:

Constant comparison can lead to feelings of envy, resentment, jealousy, and regret, which are all negative emotions that can drain your energy and lower your emotional state.

Self-Doubt and Inadequacy:

When you compare yourself to others, especially those who seem to have more or better things, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, which can lower your self-esteem and overall sense of well-being.

Focus on External Validation:

Comparing yourself to others can lead you to focus on external validation and achievements rather than your own inner growth and strengths, which can lead to a lack of fulfillment and a feeling of being stuck.

Strained Relationships:

Constant comparison can also negatively impact your relationships, as you may become envious of others or feel the need to compete with them, which can create distance and tension.

Social Media’s Role:

Social media platforms often present an idealized version of people’s lives, which can intensify the tendency to compare yourself to others and lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

Reduced Self-Worth:

A frequent side-effect of chronic comparison is decreased self-esteem, which can lead to a lower frequency or vibration.

Emotional Drain:

Comparison is a harmful habit that has a significant emotional drain and can compromise your mental well-being.

Productivity Pitfall:

Constantly measuring yourself against others is a recipe for inaction and procrastination.

This returns all power to us and gives us the ability to know that we never have to stop growing and learning.

Look around at the happiest people you know that are in their 70s and 80s and ask yourself: are they people that have completely stopped learning and growing?

Or instead, are these happy people the outliers within their demographic and are they the ones that have continued to have an appetite for growth and continue to look for new ways to learn and experience different things.

I’m sure you’ll say the latter, the Growth people are the happy people, and that is a natural fact.

From here, you can look at all the areas of your life or simply just break it down into three sections of heart, health, and happiness, and ask yourself how you are managing each of these major areas of your existence.

When checking in on your heart, ask yourself if you are providing positive self-talk and creating a loving thought loop and talk track for yourself. Another key is to make sure that all your relationships are healthy and supportive, and that you don’t have any consistent exposure to toxic people in your day-to-day life whenever possible.

For your health, are you moving your body regularly, spending time and stillness in the morning to start your day, and is your body weight where it needs to be for your age and heart health?

If you are 20 pounds or more overweight and over the age of 30, you have to put a very high priority on losing that weight as your first health goal to alleviate the stress on your heart to make sure that you don’t die before you pursue other more specific health goals.

Spoiler alert! Dying prevents you from doing and completing most of your goals from what I’m told.

Happiness can really be evaluated in part by can you stop at any time during the day and sit in stillness and feel comfortable and even happy?

Are you cool with the quiet?

If not, you can never be 100% happy because you are like the princess with the pea under your mattress and we’re going to have to fight through this discomfort to get to the other side.

Now that I’ve done the work with TypeCoach and I understand all the numerous ways personalities and people are, or are not, comfortable expressing themselves I realize that joyful behavior is not necessarily a prerequisite to prove that you’re happy.

However, if you can’t sit in quietness and take some deep breaths, there’s no denying that there’s work to be done and you have a happier future to look forward to if you can process this anxiety and integrate whatever it is that is jamming you up energetically and keeping you from feeling calm.

We have a lifetime of work improving ourselves and being the best versions of ourselves and like Bobby Jones talked about in relation to competitive golf, it’s all about that “5.5 inch space between the ears” and from there opening up your heart so that you can accept everything in your life. The past, the present, the good the bad the ugly, and simply apply a grateful perspective that everything is either a lesson or a blessing in this life experience and sometimes it’s hard for us to understand or to be patient to wait for the big reveal.

But it’s coming, we promise.

And that’s an attitude of gratitude.

EVERY DAY:

Love

and

Gratitude

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